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Emily Writes, ‘Rants in the Dark’

Ok, well firstly I haven’t attempted to do a book review since it was a school requirement so don’t expect literary genius from me here and as advanced warning I am probably totally not following whatever is the appropriate ‘book review’ template requirements, but anyway…

I got the chance to go to Emily Writes book launch earlier this week for her new release, ‘Rants in the Dark’. When I got home with my copy finally in my hands, I thought I would just flick through it briefly…




I lost a few hours of time in the end and made that terrible mistake of staying up way to late to cope with kids concepts of morning time because I read it into the wee hours without realising it.

I have been known to ‘binge read’ if I get really keen on a book I may just hide and keep reading it until its over if I can! And that is exactly what happened with this book.

When I was at the launch, I not only bought myself a copy but an extra one which I got Emily to sign so I could give it away to another ‘tired mama’ out there and so I knew I wanted to write something about it and share the awesomeness with you all too.

In what I thought at the time was an inspired moment of genius I thought, “I know, I’ll book mark my favourite ‘one liners’, bits, the ‘gems’ I like most…” This was no help at all as it turns out and actually achieved not much more than using up a whole packet of book tabs and making it harder for me to work out what I wanted to say!



Just a sea of book tabs of highlights… 


So what are my many favorite rants?

The ‘Day 3’ post birth piece, ‘Before I was a mum’ which is about that smug wisdom many of us have about how we might parent before we actually have our own kids, the ‘how to get your baby to sleep’ and ‘is your baby going through a sleep regression’ parts had me literally laughing out loud.

The In-My-Day Committee meeting minutes were also hilarious. The ‘Happy Mothers Day’ rant which suggests that one way we could celebrate this day is just end all the annoying things said to mothers, the ‘this isn’t indulgent’ part about by being responsive to our babies needs, the rant about the pressures we all feel of the evils of ‘screen time’, the ‘how not to be a jerk’ bit which featured one of my top two lines – “How about you get off my tits?” only topped by “get out of my uterus”.

It is not hard to see what has resonated in Emily’s writing. Far too much of parenting now days can feel like barrages of often conflicting advice or pressure – if only on ourselves from ourselves sometimes, to do the best we can as parents.

Emily takes a fresh, humorous and enlightened approach to relating to these real aspects without the bullshit of how to fix it. More so than that, it is uplifting, compelling and a relatable, real story of her experiences in parenting that many would enjoy.

Check out more from Emily Writes here –

You can find the competition to win yourself this signed copy on my Facebook page here – Babywearing with Jess 



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Washing your carrier?! Beware which washing powder you use! 

If you are using cloth nappies, you probably already know that avoiding “softening agents” and optical brighteners is best practise if you want them to maintain their absorbency and ensure the longevity of your investment.. A more common question I do get is, how do I wash this carrier?! 

And if you are not already familiar with ecobased washing products and powders in this setting, then I imagine you maybe even more confused as to what I’m even on about… However if you have kids with sensitive skin, you may not.. 

We made the move to full time eco friendly washing powders, not just for nappies, carriers, wraps and baby products, but for all our washing when it was me, not my kids, who kept getting contact dermatitis everytime I did a load of washing (so like 4 times a day if your kids are as messy as mine!) or folded anything fresh out of the wash (to be honest this is much less common, the only thing I really consistently fold, aka stuff is the cloth nappies, the rest of the clean dry washing usually remains heaped in the spare room where we all forage for clothes every morning hahaha).. 

So we are big on using detergents with as few chemical “nasties” as we can in general in this house, but obviously, the importance and significance of this is amplified in terms of my nappy stash (which incidentally are now in serious need of a strip wash as I had run out of other powders and despite buying what I thought was my best option in the supermarket, they now stink everytime Jai wets one, hello hidden optical brighteners! I should have known that despite the packagings appearance, evidence of little coloured balls in the powder meant it contained those things!) and carrier, wrap and library stash… 

It is easy to do damage to something like a carrier if you wash it with the wrong or too harsher chemicals first of all… As far as I know, there is not a wrap, sling or carrier on the market that will safely withstand bleach treatment of any kind… The structural integrity will be damaged as soon as something like that is used and in most, if not all cases, this will null and void any warranty you may have been entitled to… 

I am sharing this post with you, with permission from the poster, to show what “could” happen if you wash them wrong.. There was a lot of discussion and debate on this post as to whether the powder she used (“tide pool”, known to have optical brighteners) could have caused this kind of damage or if put it in the washing machine without it being inside a tied off pillow case could potentially be the culprit… Luckily for her, having followed the care instructions, she has contacted the manufacturer and they are in talks with her to arrange a new one… 

As I have mentioned in blog posts before, always, always, check the instructions from the manufacturer. If you don’t have any kind of instruction booklet anymore (who hangs onto or keeps close track of those?!), then it is very fortunate that Google is so accessible to most of us and you can simply search the brands guidelines because if you follow those and something goes wrong, at least your warranty will still be valid! 

Not to mention, it is easy to assume that one approach for a particular blend, brand or style is going to be the same across the board and as I am regularly washing carriers (it is a condition of hire that my clients DON’T wash them themselves), I took have to remind myself often. Just because that cotton blend wrap by that brand requires this certain approach, doesn’t mean that this other different cotton blend wrap, requests another…. 

But what I doubt you will find in any care instructions for carriers, wraps and cloth nappies particularly, is the request for additives like optical brighteners or “softening agents” or “special enzymes”.. All of these additives will slowly weaken your carriers structural integrity or break down the PUL layer in your nappies (the one that holds the wet in!)… 

Rockin Green is just one of the options on the market, they have just launched a new website and to celebrate, gave me a 1.3 kg bag of Rockin Green Standard wash to giveaway on Facebook! To enter to competition, check out the Facebook post here… 

Also check it out if you are not sure or have never washed your carrier! You might take interest in other people’s approach and I will post in the coming few days more about how I wash and clean my wrap, carrier and sling library and personal stash 😉