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Emily Writes, ‘Rants in the Dark’

Ok, well firstly I haven’t attempted to do a book review since it was a school requirement so don’t expect literary genius from me here and as advanced warning I am probably totally not following whatever is the appropriate ‘book review’ template requirements, but anyway…

I got the chance to go to Emily Writes book launch earlier this week for her new release, ‘Rants in the Dark’. When I got home with my copy finally in my hands, I thought I would just flick through it briefly…




I lost a few hours of time in the end and made that terrible mistake of staying up way to late to cope with kids concepts of morning time because I read it into the wee hours without realising it.

I have been known to ‘binge read’ if I get really keen on a book I may just hide and keep reading it until its over if I can! And that is exactly what happened with this book.

When I was at the launch, I not only bought myself a copy but an extra one which I got Emily to sign so I could give it away to another ‘tired mama’ out there and so I knew I wanted to write something about it and share the awesomeness with you all too.

In what I thought at the time was an inspired moment of genius I thought, “I know, I’ll book mark my favourite ‘one liners’, bits, the ‘gems’ I like most…” This was no help at all as it turns out and actually achieved not much more than using up a whole packet of book tabs and making it harder for me to work out what I wanted to say!



Just a sea of book tabs of highlights… 


So what are my many favorite rants?

The ‘Day 3’ post birth piece, ‘Before I was a mum’ which is about that smug wisdom many of us have about how we might parent before we actually have our own kids, the ‘how to get your baby to sleep’ and ‘is your baby going through a sleep regression’ parts had me literally laughing out loud.

The In-My-Day Committee meeting minutes were also hilarious. The ‘Happy Mothers Day’ rant which suggests that one way we could celebrate this day is just end all the annoying things said to mothers, the ‘this isn’t indulgent’ part about by being responsive to our babies needs, the rant about the pressures we all feel of the evils of ‘screen time’, the ‘how not to be a jerk’ bit which featured one of my top two lines – “How about you get off my tits?” only topped by “get out of my uterus”.

It is not hard to see what has resonated in Emily’s writing. Far too much of parenting now days can feel like barrages of often conflicting advice or pressure – if only on ourselves from ourselves sometimes, to do the best we can as parents.

Emily takes a fresh, humorous and enlightened approach to relating to these real aspects without the bullshit of how to fix it. More so than that, it is uplifting, compelling and a relatable, real story of her experiences in parenting that many would enjoy.

Check out more from Emily Writes here –

You can find the competition to win yourself this signed copy on my Facebook page here – Babywearing with Jess 



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Toddler Carrier Comparison

Being that my eldest son who is 3.5 years old, still likes to be worn regularly, a particular area of interest (and a decent chunk of my stash and library) is in the area of toddler sized carriers.

Don’t let the name deceive you, a proper toddler, by age, will still fit in many standard sized carriers quite comfortably. Toddler sized carriers are for children who are in at least a size two pants or larger. Whilst I have big babies and my youngest is currently the size of an eighteen month old, he is still not quite big enough really for most of these carriers.

There are four main brands of soft structured carriers in a Toddler size in my library (Toddler Tula, Beco Toddler, Lenny Lamb Toddler SSC, Lillebaby Carry On) and whilst I could do a straight comparison and review of these, this has been so eloquently done already, my favourite comparison was written quite recently by Babywearing Wellington and can be found on their website here.

I am currently working on a collaborative review project which I hope will give broader indication than just my own preferences, as to the experience and favourites of various brands and styles that a range of people have tried and used…


Nowadays, if I do get to pick, I would probably chose the only true preschooler sized carrier in my collection, the preschooler Kinderpack, which if you are wearing a proper big kid, is totally worth trying as it will change your experience with “babywearing”. But it’s not just me, but my whole family who love and appreciate the options and range owning a library affords us and we each have different preferences and favourites at different times and in different settings.

Right now, admist the chaos, as I ask both my husband and big boy what their favourite “big kid carrier” is, my husband says kitties (the preschooler Kinderpack, same as me) and my 3.5 year old says Rockets (the Toddler Tula, the first big kid carrier in our house) though it was the Lenny Lamb Toddler SSC that we collectively decided to take away with us for him on holiday recently and to be fair, neither the Beco or Lillebaby Carry On have even had a chance to be properly tried by either my big boy or husband before being out on loan to someone else!

Just like with many other situations, as our children grow and our needs and requirements shift; our preferences continue to change… We are just so lucky that I have found a way to justify and afford the range of options we have available to us through having a library of hire for others and my business in the world of babywearing! 😍

Baby carriers, particularly the variety and range of soft structured carriers really do work on a very individual basis. Your height, body shape, requirements, expectations, babies size and preferences… These are just a few of the factors that would influence what you may chose as the best option for you.

Me giving you my opinion only tells you just that, my opinion in my specific circumstances… Sometimes I have found it hard to get certain soft structured carriers tight enough for a comfortable carry high on my back, just as an example, for my husband this has not been an issue. For the record, I am about 165cm tall and at the moment, about a size 12… My main wearee is my now one year old second born who is 14kgs… But I also regularly wear my 3.5 year old who is quite a bit taller but not much heavier at approx 17kgs. Sometimes I tandem wear them, and often if we are not at home, I will wear my baby for his naptimes. What my preference is and what works best for me us has alot to do with all of those factors alone.


In order to add value to any kind of existing review, I feel that I need more variety in opinions and different perspectives. By creating a collaborative project and “pass the parcel” set up between some of my friends and connections who have some level of babywearing experience but who’s child is getting into or already in the age and size range for a toddler carrier, I am hoping to provide some more insight as to what works for different sized and shaped wearers, wearees and situations…

Watch this space!! 😉

For other information and other posts about big kid wearing see some of my other blog posts, like “Why would you wear a big kid?!” and “He’s too big to be carried!”